tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2906560836708126523.post734375185590172932..comments2024-03-20T18:46:45.397-04:00Comments on The Mindful Music Therapist: Journal Prompt #5: A person of interestRoiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12840915191850723381noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2906560836708126523.post-64695724598376880032011-08-27T17:33:04.745-04:002011-08-27T17:33:04.745-04:00Aww, thanks for checking in Tamara. So far so good...Aww, thanks for checking in Tamara. So far so good. The rain just started about an hour ago. My neighbors and I are all hunkered down in our various condos prepared for all sorts of drama. I'm at least not too close to the coast or to the Delaware. More than likely, though, my basement may be a bit flooded. Luckily, I'm on the second floor. <br /><br />We'll see what comes with the overnight. It's supposed to get much worse. Eek! First earthquakes, now this. What a week. And me with my sciatica!Roiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12840915191850723381noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2906560836708126523.post-85746840764869208952011-08-27T17:29:24.817-04:002011-08-27T17:29:24.817-04:00Roia - wondering how you are faring with Hurricane...Roia - wondering how you are faring with Hurricane Irene? I should have said . . . come to Colorado to evacuate!Tamara G. Suttle, M.Ed., LPChttp://www.allthingsprivatepractice.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2906560836708126523.post-44577502494549276802011-08-24T19:30:43.635-04:002011-08-24T19:30:43.635-04:00Hey there, Tamara! Welcome back to the land! And, ...Hey there, Tamara! Welcome back to the land! And, yes, I absolutely agree with you that we take a piece of our clients with us (as they hopefully keep a piece of us with them) after therapy ends. <br /><br />I think I meant what I said more in terms of the fact that, as a collaborative effort- the official (can we call therapy official?) collaboration ends at some point, and the symbolic (okay, this may be getting kind of nutty) collaboration continues (consciously or unconsciously).<br /><br />I am often horrified by how little attention people pay to each other any more. Honestly, I wonder if people come to therapy just to have someone sit there and quietly listen and pay attention- with no other major distractions. <br /><br />Oh, and thank you so much for making me a resource for your presentation! You know I love, love talking about countertransference! I can't wait to hear how your presentation goes! Keep us posted, eh?Roiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12840915191850723381noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2906560836708126523.post-87248139151501793162011-08-23T22:50:40.296-04:002011-08-23T22:50:40.296-04:00Oh, yummy! Such a great post to chew on!I don'...Oh, yummy! Such a great post to chew on!I don't know, though, Roia, if I agree with your comment to Dirk . . . . I think that although we don't stay in communication with our clients once our work is finished, in some ways, I think that once we've made contact with someone, we stay connected forever. <br /><br />I'm thinking of that saying about how you can't step into the same river twice. I mean once we've made contact, we carry a piece of that person with us or we are forever changed by that contact no matter how brief. So, to me . . . to say "it's over / done with" seems a little too finite.<br /><br />And, as for those "people of interest," I'm always surprised to find some people have little interest at all in other people; and others find all people to be infinitely of interest. <br /><br />By the way, this post cinched the deal . . . . Definitely including your blog in my resources for my ACA presentation in 2012 on counter-transference. Your introspection is RICH! Thanks for sharing!Tamara G. Suttle, M.Ed., LPChttp://www.allthingsprivatepractice.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2906560836708126523.post-24807960022003404532011-08-01T21:36:42.606-04:002011-08-01T21:36:42.606-04:00Actually, @Pace, I think you were right on subject...Actually, @Pace, I think you were right on subject! Sometimes I think people- even music therapists- can get hung up on the label or the diagnosis and not see the person- not go deeper. <br /><br />I guess when I think of the question of "are we not of interest to each other?" I start with "do we not matter to each other?" and move on to "do we not care enough about each other that we are willing to...(for example, learn about where this person comes from, learn about who this person is, learn about how I may be influencing this relationship in a negative way, etc.)?"<br /><br />So glad you took the time to comment/share your thoughts!Roiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12840915191850723381noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2906560836708126523.post-29947246135244851372011-08-01T03:13:28.797-04:002011-08-01T03:13:28.797-04:00I always think of some who is "of interest to...I always think of some who is "of interest to me" as being "someone worth exploring as a human." Some people see "of interest" as a synonym for "of importance." If I were a music therapist I hope I would see all clients as "of interest" (whether it be a synonym for 'of importance' or not)otherwise it would be too easy to not put my all into what my client and I could achieve through the therapy.<br /><br />I probably went off subject, but that's just what went through my mind when you presented a couple of those questions.Pacenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2906560836708126523.post-51523654419044329272011-07-31T21:44:22.265-04:002011-07-31T21:44:22.265-04:00@Dirk I always said you were a little suspicious l...@Dirk I always said you were a little suspicious looking. :- ) Given your French author's definition, then I guess a collaboration *is* in some ways more like the therapy process. After all, when therapy is over, it's over, and we can't usually stay in contact forever. <br /><br />You're absolutely right in noting that I push professional boundaries. I think we need to acknowledge the wish that's often there. I think not talking about it and not saying it exists is what leads to boundary violations. <br /><br />Thanks for swinging by and sharing your thoughts!Roiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12840915191850723381noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2906560836708126523.post-46986651480696578722011-07-31T14:58:26.561-04:002011-07-31T14:58:26.561-04:00I'm probably a "person of interest" ...I'm probably a "person of interest" on somebody's list somewhere! :) Funny how that means suspect. I hear how the older generation is often motivated to use social media simply to spy on relatives. There is a small booklet by a french author, can't remember the name. In it she contrasts community with collaboration. Sharing a mutual goal or collaboration falls short of community. Like when you never hear from someone after your project is completed. You get into professional boundaries here, but you pose some great questions, mindful indeed.Dirk Cushenberyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02735431425440712270noreply@blogger.com