tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2906560836708126523.post7456054604553547184..comments2024-03-20T18:46:45.397-04:00Comments on The Mindful Music Therapist: Journal Prompt #1 (The sounds of silence)Roiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12840915191850723381noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2906560836708126523.post-59849791033995831142011-05-17T22:13:33.615-04:002011-05-17T22:13:33.615-04:00@Julie @Kat and @Rachelle Thank you, all, so much ...@Julie @Kat and @Rachelle Thank you, all, so much for sharing your experiences. As I read everyone's comments and thoughts, I wanted to add a few more questions for consideration that came to mind:<br /><br />*Do we allow for silence in sessions (other than at ending of songs)?<br />*How does silence in a music therapy session differ when you work with people who have dementia, people who are dying, with children, with someone who doesn't use speech as their main communication mode?<br />*What do we notice in the silence (about our clients, about ourselves)?Roiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12840915191850723381noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2906560836708126523.post-58903364127236946162011-05-16T23:19:22.716-04:002011-05-16T23:19:22.716-04:00Wow, Roia, I could write many pages on this topic,...Wow, Roia, I could write many pages on this topic, but here are the couple of thoughts that have come most strongly to mind:<br /><br />One is the juiciness of some silences that Kat mentioned. My favorite is when I'm working with a group of adults with dementia, especially when drumming, and we come to the end of our improvisation and all manage to stop together on the same beat. They often are so scattered and not much in tune with each other, that it is amazing to hear that silence that means we were all together for once. I've had staff members comment on that kind of silence, too - it's definitely a "wow" moment for them, too.<br /><br />The other thing I've been thinking about is way back in one of my first clinical practica, with teen girls in a psychiatric hospital, my supervisor told me that I was allowing too much silence after posing questions to the group and basically that it was my job to fill the silences before the clients became too uncomfortable and shut down. I know she was right about me leaving too much silence, but I also think she was uncomfortable with the silences, too, and maybe didn't always let the clients have the space to say what they needed to say. It's a difficult thing to balance in both verbal processing and musical interactions.<br /><br />For myself, I feel like I need silence in my life. I often like to have (relative) silence in my car when I drive between sessions, and I love the quiet time I have before going to bed each night, whereas my husband can pass out watching a loud movie. <br /><br />Thank you for the prompt! I look forward to the next one :-)Rachellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12492043200399666242noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2906560836708126523.post-6234591879334972722011-05-16T20:35:30.220-04:002011-05-16T20:35:30.220-04:00I love this prompt to reflect on silence in a vari...I love this prompt to reflect on silence in a variety of settings. I LOVED Bonnie's story - thanks for sharing that! I find that, in MT sessions, silence is often vital in giving my student-clients enough processing and response time. During this silence, I am deeply "tuned in", so to speak, with the client's affect, body language, concentration, etc. These are the precious moments that are so rarely found in our public school settings.<br /><br />As for silence on my own time, I definitely savor it. I have 2 rowdy boys at home, so silence is not a common occurrence in my daily existence. There are times when silence is so necessary, comfortable, and not long enough! ;-)Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04773847276491695139noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2906560836708126523.post-1219471195164708282011-05-10T10:29:35.051-04:002011-05-10T10:29:35.051-04:00Love how this is provoking so much thought in our ...Love how this is provoking so much thought in our community and on twitter! <br /><br />When silence occurs in my sessions, it is usually at the end of a sentimental music experience... maybe a song, or an improvisation when we fade out at the end... then there's a big full breath. I love to sit in the silence for a while after experiences like that.<br /><br />Mmmm Mmm Mmm. Those moments of silence are so juicy. It feels like the silence is necessary to get reaquainted with the regular world again.Kat Fultonhttp://rhythmforgood.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2906560836708126523.post-79895396694712491242011-05-07T19:46:37.662-04:002011-05-07T19:46:37.662-04:00What a beautiful story @Bonnie! Thank you for shar...What a beautiful story @Bonnie! Thank you for sharing it. Those are the moments we need in our music therapy lives, aren't they? They keep us going when we're floundering away and wondering where we went wrong. :- ) Can't wait to hear more of your experiences!<br /><br />@Michelle You are most welcome, and thank you for joining in! If it makes you feel better, I have two people lined up to come over and burn my journals (withOUT reading them, thank you very much) when I die (obsessive? Moi?). I think we write so we can learn to think and hear ourselves, but we certainly don't have to hear our old stuff over and over again, so write it and move along, I say. <br /><br />You, my dear, have a whole technological arsenal at your very fingertips, so you certainly don't have to go the usual journal route. You do, after all, blog and podcast and so forth. I shall await your inner brilliance with great anticipation!Roiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12840915191850723381noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2906560836708126523.post-69145512005458370242011-05-07T00:10:49.940-04:002011-05-07T00:10:49.940-04:00Thank you for doing this! I've been an on agai...Thank you for doing this! I've been an on again - off again journaler all my life. I find my old journals, read them and then throw them out because I'm so embarrassed. I just don't particularly like to look back... I am truly like a good wine and get better with age :)<br /><br /><i>But</i> I know I should be taking time to look at my work and process my feelings during sessions. And, I think my lack of affection for journaling has really blocked me for doing that. So, I'm really thankful for this series you are starting and I'm really committed to sticking with it. :)MICHELLE ERFURT, MT-BChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17246862396394126978noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2906560836708126523.post-12615791233486257132011-05-06T23:38:02.487-04:002011-05-06T23:38:02.487-04:00This is a WONDERFUL idea Roia. As I read what you...This is a WONDERFUL idea Roia. As I read what you worked on in group, I was immediately reminded of a moment I had this week with a 10 y/o boy with limited language and severe Autism. We had just finished singing a special hello song I created just for him to encourage eye contact when saying hello and we both just starred into each others eyes for a few seconds. Silence. We simultaneously began to grin. Silence. Then we both grinned from ear to ear. Silence. Then the silence was broken with laughter, as we continued to connect. It was a profound moment in which I felt I saw this client's true self come out as I spoke, "I see you ______." He confidently responded by pointing to himself, speaking one word ever so clearly, "Me." It was truly a beautiful moment.Bonnie Hayhurstnoreply@blogger.com